i know this is an old thread.
you dont need to remove those leads from the flyback itself the new one should come with these installed.
but,since you asked how to remove the leads from them you just twist the cable and pull at the same time until it comes out.
its better to desolder the grey cable from the neck pcb and twist and pull the black one from the connector that goes on the neck,then desolder the whole lopt from the pcb and install the new one.