well thanks to Fitzy-poos and johnny-baby, my A1200 now boots
had some really wierd probs to begin with (I have fixed the problem) here are the symtoms
start amiga, everything would spin up then a black screen then a constant reboot, VERY occaisionally it would boot (say 1 in 20 times), with the rebooting going on it would even boot from floppy:wooha:
anyhoo i sorted that out and then had to start configuring stuff (this is where Johnim and Fitzsteve's help was invaluable!, it is all new to me this mediator stuff)
now i have the miggy booting into 3.9 with the voodoo providing the display and the Radeon giving me some fast ram (131mb fast for now, but plans are afoot to change that)
oh yeah and Doom currently runs between 15 and 20 fps
ps2 keyboard and mouse work a treat.
things to do now are...
1) work out how to get the network card working (should i have a flashing light?)
2) work out how to use the sound card.
3) work out why the mouse works in workbench perfectly but seems to only do direction in games (as in no button presses

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once again, thank you to all of you that have helped me so much with this, if not for you guys i'd just have an expensive box of bits:roll::grouphug::inlove::thanks::yourock: